I'll be happy when
A problem I often fall into is not being happy right now, and saying that I will be happy when another event happens.
I will be happy when….
The Problem ๐︎
When you say this, you are getting this temporary kick of how it feels to experience that event. You are using that future event to feel good now.
It’s like this story from The Alchemist.
The Story ๐︎
There is a trader who’s dream it is to one day go to Mecca. To complete the Islamic pilgrimage.
Having this dream to look forward to is the only thing in his mind that keeps him going in the day-to-day activities.
Without this potential future event, his life is meaningless.
If he was to actually achieve the dream, he would have to face his life with no hope.
As they say, the only thing worse than never getting what you want, is getting what you want.
What Then? ๐︎
To avoid this thought process, get into the habit of enjoying what is in front of you right now.
Enjoy walks to work.
Enjoy the trees.
Enjoy dinners with family and friends.
Enjoy the now.
Don’t lose your ability to enjoy and have fun right now.